Dating your mistress
Historically the term has denoted a "kept woman", who was maintained in a comfortable (or even lavish) lifestyle by a wealthy man so that she would be available for his sexual pleasure.
Such a woman could move between the roles of a mistress and a courtesan depending on her situation and environment.
Maybe it's just me, but the worst part about having a mistress is the 'getting caught' part; otherwise, it's all upside.
If someone tells you the sex part is the worst part, and the 'getting caught' part is the best part, that's a man who needs to reconsider his fetishes.
Rosetta, the high-flying, glamorous mistress, became Tom Gutteridge's new wife – then, three years later, received her comeuppance in spectacular fashion when Gutteridge dumped her for a woman ten years younger.
Questions• Can an affair turn into a successful marriage?
You need to verbalize what's going on in your relationship, not only with one another, but talk about work, your interests and your goals.There is often also the implication (if not the fact) that the mistress is "kept" – i.e.that her lover is paying for some (and sometimes all) of her living expenses.Because phone books are organized by last name, the most efficient method of scouting mistress candidates is to shout your wife's name in a crowd and see who turns her head.
The challenge becomes much greater if you like to call out first last names during sex.
A mistress is not a prostitute: while a mistress, if "kept", may, in some sense, be exchanging sex for money, the principal difference is that a mistress has sex with fewer men and there is not so much of a direct quid pro quo between the money and the sex act.